Marriage used to be a major life goal for most people, but in today’s world, many men are choosing to stay single. While some are simply not ready, others have deeper reasons for avoiding marriage altogether.
From financial worries to changing societal expectations, there are plenty of factors keeping men from walking down the aisle. In this article, we’ll explore 10 key reasons why men are not getting married.
Here are the 10 Reasons Why Men Are Not Getting Married:
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1. Masculine women wanting feminine treatment
Some men have complained about having to deal with a prospective partner who wants the sweet treats of being feminine but, in words and actions, shows aggressive masculine tendencies. They complain some ladies of this generation lack the necessary attributes to qualify them for the lifetime commitment.
Nobody wants to come home and meet his fellow man with boobs and bumbum.
2. They get sex freely without marriage
As the economy gets worse, it is becoming easier for men to get free sex without the responsibility that comes with committing to a long-term relationship or marriage.
This also reveals a flaw in their life as some ask, “What do I need a woman for if I can always carry short time?”
A lot of issues arise here as you may impregnate random women, catch expensive STDs or just mess up your finances along the way.
3. Weddings are expensive
In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding – traditional, court and church, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating and mentally frustrating.
A lot of tension comes with planning, and if you’re not aligned with your partner, family members may create unnecessary issues between you. Some will even give you a special list of what to buy for their papa or mama. Kaikai people, I pour you spit!
4. In search of a working or businesswoman
Given economic realities, many men do not want women who do not have a job, business or handwork. No matter what Odogwu does in movies, the reality is very different.
The man may stay and use you as a plaything, but he will never commit. When you ask important questions about commitment, he will tell you, “Let’s be going and see where this leads.” He will continue to spread you like butter on top of bread.
5. Fear of losing their freedom
Some men believe that marriage puts an end to one’s freedom, and in some way, this is true—marriage demands responsibility and prioritising your new family above your personal whims.
Many men are not used to telling anybody where they are going. So imagine waking up now and having to tell someone, your wife, where you are at all times. Some men are not ready for that type of commitment. But it is what marriage demands.
6. Career plans and movement
Today, he is in Nigeria, and tomorrow, South Africa or Ghana. Abuja today, Lome tomorrow or Asaba the next day. A man who is always on the go may sometimes forget to get married.
This is why sometimes the family will bring home somebody for him to marry, but most times, this doesn’t end well because the man will see you once in a blue moon and zoom off to focus on what is important to him.
7. Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws
Some parents have set specific standards for any man who will marry their daughter. And if the man is not patient and willing to get through the process, he can become frustrated. This is why he will even say, “Is it not this babe I have been doing things with all these days, what is the difference now?”
So, for parents and relatives, please ensure you know what your precious daughter is doing outside the house. She can be arcing for a man from behind, and you will be swearing she has never looked at a man before.
8. Trust issues from being a playboy
If the man was a heavy striker who scored both single and ladies in relationships, you could understand why he would be sceptical about committing because he assumes someone else will do the same thing to him.
Also, if the guy has a circle of friends who are not interested in settling down, he will prefer to continue having the time of his life.
9. Bad Testimonies from Married couple
Everywhere you turn on this socha museum, people have bad stories to tell about marriage. In fact, marriage gets such a bad rep that the good stories never really get blown up here. And when you add the constant gender wars, it makes matters worse.
These gender fights here will not help us. You cannot stay alone forever. If you can, find someone and settle, please.
10. Cultural and church limitations
Some people have sworn they will never marry outside their town, village, state or church. What this does is that it limits the pool of eligible people you can have conversations with and consider as potential spouses.
As much as you can, keep an open mind. If you have searched in your village and can’t find, expand your tent to your state and continue to expand till you find who you’re looking for.
I wish you all the best.
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